Monday, October 12, 2009

The ever talked about subject. Can guys and girls be JUST friends? Obviously people of the opposite sex can be friends. I have plenty of male friends. However, the JUST part always trips up the relationship. It's not that male-female relationships always end in relationships or drama about relationships, it's SEXUAL TENSION, folks. That's right. Big, bad awkward turtle in the room. It doesn't even have to be that someone likes someone else or they both like each other. It's when your drunk, and you feel like maybe, just maybe he is a little hotter than you once thought and you touch his arm just a little more than normal. Or when you're texting and he makes a comment like, "you were so hot tonight in your dress." You don't have to have feelings for your friend, but the moments when you are feeling lonely and you think of him are the ones where SEXUAL TENSION could bust that happy little JUST. Texting and IMing are the best ways to hone this sexual tension so it becomes fun yet harmless. If you feel like flirting but have no one in particular to flirt with, turn to that opposite-gender friend (only through texting or IMing) and flirt it out. BE CAREFUL, though. The worst mistake you can make with this is getting either 1) too sexual so they think you want to have sex with them, or 2) too lovey-dovey so they think you like them as more than friends. If you do not want to lose a friend, do not go there. So, keep it small at first. Fit little (LITTLE!) remarks here and there into the platonic conversations you two have. Then, IF he reciprocates and doesn't either 1)get the wrong idea or 2) not get it, go for the bigger stuff like, "what are you wearing?" This advice is ONLY for the occasional time when you want to flirt and only for texting or IMing. No phone or face to face flirting (unless you're drunk) with good opposite-sex friends: it only leads to trouble. Flirt on, friends! :)


  1. dayum, you nailed this one on the head... sexual tension is the best kind =]

  2. I LOVE THIS and I love your picture!!!